A Message For Women in 2025: This Lie Has Been Holding You Back!

The Hidden Block: You Don't Have To Do It All Alone

Sage Robbins and her conversation partner explore a single, recurring obstacle that keeps many people stuck: trying to carry every burden alone. The discussion moves beyond platitudes and into lived experience — from the fatigue of people-pleasing to the quiet, steady work of reclaiming an inner life. In a voice shaped by decades on stage and the sharp personal lessons of motherhood, loss, and recovery, Sage reframes discomfort as an indicator of inner transformation rather than a problem to escape.

Why Discomfort Signals Growth and How To Notice It

Discomfort often shows up as anxiety, sleepless nights, or an urge to withdraw. Sage explains that discomfort usually points to something unfamiliar happening beneath the surface: a shifting identity, a release of old conditioning, or an invitation to change patterns like people-pleasing.

Practical framing:

• Notice the sensation rather than immediately reacting to it.
• Ask clarifying questions like "What am I missing?" to move from blame to inquiry.
• Use short centering practices to regroup before deciding what next step to take.

Motherhood As a School of Presence and Boundaries

Sage offers a nuanced portrait of modern parenting: the temptation to meet every demand, the learning curve of not turning children into extensions of adult validation, and the surprising intelligence children often show for self-regulation when adults mirror calm. She describes the trap of giving into every cry or request — meeting a demand can escalate demands — and reframes parenting as a practice of witnessing, holding space, and offering guidance without rescuing.

Concrete ways she supports autonomy

• Speak to children with adult-level respect to invite maturity.
• Model breath practices to teach regulation through demonstration, not only instruction.
• Offer limits with warmth so children learn boundaries and internal control.

From Victim Mindset To Personal Responsibility

One of the episode's clearest pivots is the distinction between feeling legitimately harmed and living in a prolonged victim narrative. Sage calls the victim voice part of the survival mind — an innocent mechanism that can easily harden into drama when left unexamined. Rather than deny emotion, she recommends inquiry-based tools to surface what the mind is telling you and to test its claims.

Short inquiry tools

• Ask: "What am I missing in this situation?" to find perspective beyond blame.
• Write brief, specific statements about beliefs to slow the mind and expose stories.
• Use the turnaround method to reframe statements and reveal alternative truths.

Simple Practices That Shift Internal Weather

Breath work appears as a quietly radical tool. Sage describes a personal ritual called "60 seconds of peace" — a brief breath-centered pause that reorients attention and dissolves momentum toward reactivity. This practice is practical for people juggling business, parenting, and public life because it can be executed between meetings, car rides, or during a child's recital.

Additional methods discussed

• Meditation and prayer as anchors when life feels chaotic.
• Therapeutic modalities like EMDR for unresolved trauma.
• Cold plunges, physiological shifts, and small rituals to change state quickly.

Relationships, Apologies, And The Power Of Beginning Again

After twenty-five years together, Sage and her partner rely on a practice many couples can adapt: the willingness to "begin again." Saying "Can we begin again?" becomes a reset button that moves people from defense into repair, dissolving the need to score or hold grudges. The episode highlights the maturity of apologizing first as an act of inner freedom rather than weakness.

Loss, Infertility, And The Gift Of Lived Wisdom

Sage speaks candidly about loss, miscarriage, and rare medical challenges that required patience and surrender. Those hard seasons became the soil for lived wisdom: patience, perspective, and an appreciation that timing — even when painful — can yield deeper capacity for presence and service.

Practice Summary

• Notice discomfort as signal, not enemy.
• Use breath to reset: 60 seconds of peace can change impulse patterns.
• Replace blame with inquiry: ask "What am I missing?" and write the belief down.
• Model calm for children and give limits with warmth to foster autonomy.
• Offer the relationship the freedom to "begin again" and practice apologizing first.

Across stories about parenting, marriage, illness, and leadership, the thread is clear: life narrows into moments that demand presence, humility, and practical practices. Where conditioned reflexes once drove behavior, inquiry and simple rituals open new possibilities. The result is not a promised perfection but a steadier mind, a kinder heart, and a more authentic way of living.